When to Get Help for Workplace Disputes or Conflict
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An organization, no matter what size, can find itself facing a conflict so entrenched, so ugly, that a key person is paralyzing the productivity of an entire group, a department is chronically unable to come up with a new idea, or leadership is in such disarray that partners aren’t speaking to each other and some are ready to walk.
Underneath almost every negative conflict are interpersonal relationships that are rubbing each other the wrong way. When emotions run high (especially fueled by fear or anxiety) people can dig their heels into their position and block their ears to anyone who tries to reason logically with them.
Mediators are specially trained to work with teams in these situations. They understand relationship dynamics in play and how emotions can run amok.
Mediation is the tool that can help people come to the table, get clear on the issues, sort out their conflicts, and put the team—and the company—back on track.
Why mediation?
Mediation provides the opportunity for parties to:
Define and clarify issues
Understand different perspectives
Identify interests
Explore and assess possible solutions
Reach mutually satisfactory agreements
The beauty and benefit of bringing in a conflict advisor is that an independent third-party facilitator brings fresh and trained eyes to the situation. Because of their special training and experience, they typically have more success in reaching resolution than the company’s manager or team leader does. According to the American Arbitration Association, over 85% of all mediations result in a settlement.
Taming the elephant(s) in the room
A mediator can come into a team conflict situation in which there are so many elephants in the room it’s hard to move! They may include past relationships, bad business decisions, blame, different working styles, personality types, conflict styles, strategic needs – you get the idea. Our relationship with a team includes “shooting” some elephants and riding some others.
Questions are asked, emotions are teased out. There can be painful moments, as when a key founding member quits, taking his equity, knowledge and dedication with him. There can be screaming—mediation textbooks call this kind of interaction “venting,” I call it a darn shame that it’s gone this far. But there are times when deeply-festering emotions need to surface if a team has any chance of surviving.
Breakthroughs often come from surprising places—one of the great satisfactions of this work. The “venting” wakes up a person who happens to hold the keys to change. The oppressive energy in the room shifts, and a glimmer of hope emerges. People begin to see the reality of their situations and the real conversation they need to have in order to alter that reality. We help them build a new story they can all hitch their wagons to. The first steps to a new trust are taken.
The brass ring? Embracing constructive conflict!
Groups who call us in because they're in crisis mode have taken years to get to the stage they find themselves in. After mediation, course corrections will take time. We often continue our work with teams to help them nurture that trust in each other, make hard and necessary choices, and build momentum toward their new story.
The team gets better not only at seeing the elephants, but at dealing with them before they ever make it into the room — which ultimately benefits everyone in the organization.
How is your organization dealing with conflict? Do you know the warning signs of destructive conflict which, unaddressed, could lead to a dispute situation that requires outside intervention? If so, schedule a conversation with us here.
When we join a company, partnership or team, our expectation is that everyone involved will exhibit professional behavior toward us and each other. Instead, it’s highly possible that we may become one of the more than 60 million adults in the United States who are affected in some way by bullying behavior at work.
What kind of behaviors are we talking about? Our definition is any interpersonal behavior that causes emotional distress in others sufficient enough to impede their productivity or disrupt organizational functioning. It isn’t just a personality conflict — it’s a chronic pattern of disrespectful behavior.