Outside Help for an Inside Problem: What can mediation do for you?

Outside Help for an Inside Problem: What can mediation do for you?

Have you ever witnessed something that had you wondering if you should call someone? Someone on the ground, a car accident, a kid by themselves— these situations leave most of us wondering if everything is alright, if help is already coming, if we need to do anything, or if the situation will resolve itself.

Deciding to bring in an outside mediator is kind of like that. Except you don’t watch a split-second event occur; instead, it unfolds over weeks or months, drip by drip, seeping into the environment and culture, until it almost becomes normalized.

But just because something is normal does not mean it’s okay.

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Business-Busting Conflicts are Frequent in Startup Teams

Business-Busting Conflicts are Frequent in Startup Teams

In the years I’ve worked as mediator, conflict coach, trainer, and confidant, I’ve seen hundreds of startups in conflict crisis mode — in the midst of amazing ideas, great funding, market possibilities and bright futures.

For a variety of predictable systemic reasons they had gone over the cliff so not only did they need to get their jobs done, they needed to also rebuild their teams, and in some cases, their close relationships, from the bottom up.

Back in 2013, I pulled together some statistics and takeaways on startups who fail due to conflict, drawn from my personal experience, interviews with founders, and some curiosity-inspired digging. As far as I can tell, the stats still hold up today, and I’m still working with startup teams on these same issues. So it feels worthy and important to share this information again.

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